The truth is when people are not okay or are not satisfied with themselves, they tend to act out their loved ones or their partners because they are the only people who share part of your life , who know you are troubled, can see you are changing ,turn negative , not fulfilling thier expectations anymore . People will always have problem seeing the person change they fell in love with and there will be fights and clashes.The other person should provide the space ,it hurts a lot to not help and stay stagnant ,not trying to improve the situation ,rather live one’s one life ignoring the fact your partner is changing. If your partner is suicidal or really in trouble ,you definitely need to help and intervene in between .
But if not so you should rather try to understand the problem and help them indirectly by correcting the basic things..which are troubling them and maybe you r not at all the cause behind it.
But the main question is why the divorce if your partner is trying to help that should actually make yhe relationship stronger.
But no..its on the person who is going mad,loosing control over their own life, are damn confused about life, purpose ,a job ,or children ,or family or their partner,or their past.
This is for them ,the person who is troubled.
Your solution is not to act out on your partner beacuse they know the negative side of your actions. They know your downfall. You feel vulnerable infront of them.Their help seem to be a burden and overpossesivenes. But ask yourself what if you care for your declining health of your mother and you suggest things and she bans you from meeting her forever.Though a mother will never do this..but think how would you feel. Is it your mistake to help,is it your mistake you couldnt take away your mothers pain..absolutely no.
That is how your partner is intervening in your problmes and trying to help.
But people act our with anger on their partner when they are troubled.
People get confused and often it feels as if isolation is needed for thinking straight and correctly and giving yourself assurance that no other force in this world is driving your life and decisions. People tend to find themselves back by firstly giving up the others specially if that person is imporatant.
If people have thought more straight, didn’t have self doubt, had the trust and courage in their partners irrespective of the situation,many relations could have been saved.
When two people stay together ,accepting their worst is the only way to love each other.It is called true love ..the gifts , trips ,money and romance dosent matter.
You should never accept abuse or really negative things in your relation but ..if your partner is willing to stick around and help you,is it not your duty to be there for them too?
Self improve yourself before entering i to relations.Finding solution and peace and hapiness in your partner is never the solution.
Line like “you are my other half or i find my hapiness after meeting you or you changed my life ” is not completely okay.Beacuse when your good mood- period is over.You will rather blame your partner for chaing you for being the other half. You will want to physically and mentally seperate yourself from them to think straight or be in peace..
The path is to find hapiness and peace first and make a beautiful family or love life after that which will add to your hapiness and purpose rather than being the sole purpose and Being more tolerant.Learn to forgive .
You are not bound to think the way i think.u should do what you feel is right..you should ask yourself what if the situation was opposite ,how would you feel.But its what i think is a core problem ,other than cheating on your partner as cause of divorce.
“Family is not the most important thing in life,its everything in life.”
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